Pain Changes People

This year is coming to a quick end and yes I know I said I'd blog more often and with each post I apologize about not blogging more often...

With that said...I'm sorry about not blogging more often. 
I really really do try to whenever I remember but please bear with me. Thinking of topics isn't always the easiest and I try to think of blog topics that won't stir up debates or anger within my readers.

But I feel like this post is long overdue.

I happened to be going through a list of quotes on this social media page I found, and I find three words that I basically have been trying to explain through my words, my music, my advice.

Pain. Changes. People.

It changes our thoughts, our beliefs, our experiences, our outlook, our behavior. Everything. Pain is the one thing that allows us to evaluate ourselves in the worth way possible and believe it to be justified and logical. It makes us focus on the aspects of this that spurred on the source of the pain and then it makes us want to change it. No one wants to feel pain if we can feel other emotions such as happiness and relief. Pain is sometimes ultimately for the better but the process of working through the hurt is sometimes far too long for the end result to be worth it. At times, it's the process itself that twists and mangles the thoughts and beliefs of a person. 

I wish I could say that I don't have a personal experience to back this up, but I do. Since I don't want to delve too much into my past life, I shall briefly describe a scenario that I experienced barely ten minutes ago. 

As you all know, I am currently a sophomore in Highschool. I am taking two college course and while I admit that it is not nearly as stressful as my upcoming years, I still find it to be quite challenging at times. For some or other reason, I thought today was Thursday (not Wednesday) and that my homework for one of my college classes was due this Friday. I have never really made this mistake before, so it came as a shock to me. My first thought was 'oh, that's ok. Finish it and give it to her on Friday(when my next class is)' and then I proceeded to tell my friends why I don't have my binder and homework for that class to get a good laugh out of it. 

Now here's where I have a problem with the way others react. When a friend of yours has obviously made a mistake and is trying to play it off cool, casually laugh along with the person about the situation. Do. Not. Laugh. At. The. Person. 

I don't know if that was my friend's intention, but I was deeply hurt at seeing my friend laugh at me. I don't think that was her intention, but a simple act like that can and will tell your friend that s/he is stupid for making that mistake. 

What this can lead to is your friend feeling insignificant for any amount of time and then not wanting to open up to you about any other mistakes or misunderstandings that s/he has made. Please be careful whenever you say or do something because it can hurt the other person. 

I realize that this has probably turned into a little venting session for me, apologies for that, but I hope my experience has helped you realize how much a simple action can hurt a person. When you close this page and shut off your laptop or switch to another app on your phone, I do wish that my message of this post will stay in your head. 

4 Common Misconceptions About High School

Being a Sophomore in high school (that's taking three community college courses this year, mind you!) is very difficult and challenging. I've already had about 10 years of schooling (yes I'm counting Kindergarten) and the difficulty that comes each year with it is relentless. Some classes may be easier than others, but it's been a heck of a rollercoaster for me. There are a lot of things about school I wasted a lot of my time on that I wish I would've known it didn't matter as much as I thought it would. And, of course, being teenagers, many people hold misconceptions about our behavior and that, in turn, affects how people look at high school.




For all of my followers who are going into high school this year or will be going into high school, I really hope that this post will help you understand that high school isn't so bad. *smile*

1. Everyone gets bullied
While I understand that this is legitimately  a concern for many of you (as it was one for me as well), I can assure you that not everyone gets bullied. There is not a 100% change that everyone will hate you. If you join any clubs, there will probably be at least one or two people that share the same interests as you! Maybe you both like reading the same books..maybe both of you like drawing or play the same video games. You never know what could happen. I encourage you to try and join one club this year, even if you already have friends. It's easier to try and branch out if you make a new friends.

2. You won't find a table to sit at for lunch.
This is one of the many fears that newcomers have. Where will I sit? Do I sit with people I met in my class? Will I look like a loner if I sit by myself? Will there be empty tables? How does the lunch line work? While these are valid worries, there is a simple remedy. If you start talking to someone else in one of your classes (even 10 minutes is enough) put out a simple offer to sit together at lunch. If you don't want to sound 'desperate' try something like this: "Hey, I was wondering, want to sit together at lunch? I don't know how many empty tables there will be, so it saves us the trouble of finding extra seats, right?" and grin or laugh lightly to give that 'laid-back' feel to the other person. Try maintaining eye contact if you can.

3. Everyone in high school is most likely on drugs.
This is FALSE. While there are the groups of kids that do make the choice to drink, smoke, etc..there are a lot more who are paying attention to their grades, who care about education, and who are overall very nice people to be around. It just happens that the kids who do drugs are most often the ones who are well known because of their habits and that overshadows the rest of the student body that should be appreciated.

4. High school is like a jail cell
OK, so I understand why people might say this (I've said it a few times myself)  but don't let this saying overshadow your thoughts. The main lobby in my school literally looks like the cement walls in jails BUT I still love it here because of all the fun I have. Yes, it's stressful. Yes, I stay up all night doing my homework. Yes, studying for tests is really hard. No, I don't want to leave. You might not like high school but I guarantee you that you will make close friends and have really amazing memories. Looking past the hard work and determination you will need, high school is a really fun place and there isn't one day that you will not be amused by what's happening in the cafeteria or in the hallways.

Well, that's it folks. The four common misconceptions people have about high school. There are definitely a lot more fake rumors that people believe but sometimes it's more fun to figure out that they're just rumors through your own experience that reading about it in a blog. I wish you the best of luck in the long journey that's called high school.

(But, I mean.....wouldn't it be cooler to go to Hogwarts?)